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One thing family members like to accuse gender dysphoric people of is wanting attention. You wouldn’t believe the emails and messages I’ve gotten from parents of gender dysphoric, trans-identified kids, blazing with hostility at their kids. It would be a better world if we could acknowledge that a big part of parenthood is resenting your […]

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Kanye

What’s sad about this world is how strange it is. Sometimes I’m glad I didn’t end up transitioned just so that the face looking back at me in the mirror is not a new one. I don’t think, if I had a beard, and a mastectomy, my mental health could have rolled with the punches […]

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Control and dependence

I have a lot of trouble being dependent on other people. My time being trans-identified definitely made me a lot less trusting of depending on “community.” Before trans-identification I mostly conceived of control manuevers as occurring through threats- you don’t do what I want, I will take this important experience/object/resource away from you. It’s my […]

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The first thing to think about

While I definitely, for sure, have no idea whether you should medically transition, I do know what needs to be your first priority: your money. (If your parents can fly you home when things get bad, might as well stop reading now.) For people with GD who need to work because they don’t have anyone […]

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Dumbass

It was a nice weekend. It was my first real weekend in a long time. I went through all my bills, made them auto-pay, and moved the payment dates so stuff hits after my second paycheck of the month. I worked out what a realistic savings goal is. There are two big expenses looming- I […]

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Data

In general, people who ask whether they should transition know the answer. I don’t know the answer, at all. I have some hunches people don’t understand what kind of specialty care problems they’re signing up for, but that’s also true if you smoke OR if you have a vaginal birth. I get that people can’t […]

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Good

I’m tired of my own angst. I went to a wedding yesterday. And weddings are so stupid. Just so long and awkward and corny. The couple was happy and that’s the important part. It’s their money, their time, their relationship, they should do what they want. But DAMN I hate a wedding. And you know […]

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